Celebrate Valentine’s Day with your Children!
Valentine’s Day
Songs for Children
We are counting down the days until February 14th with our very own special Valentine’s Day songs!
Here’s the first on our list and one of our favorites:
Five Little Valentines
(Sung to Ba-ba black sheep)
One little Valentine said, “I love you”
Name of child made another, then there were two.
Two little Valentines, one for you and me.
__________ made another, then there were three.
Three little Valentines said, “we need more”.
________ made more, then there were four.
Four little Valentines, one more to arrive.
_________ made another, then there were five.
Five little Valentines all ready to say
“Be my valentine on this happy day.”
The Top Ten tips for Promoting Healthy Sleep in Infants
“Sleepy Time” Tips
for Infants
The Top Ten tips for Promoting Healthy Sleep in Infants
by Marilee Hartling, RN, MFT
1. Create an environment for your infant that supports sleep. Your baby’s sleep time environment should be dark and quiet. Take care that the environment around the crib is not too stimulating.
2. Create a “Sleepy Time” routine for your infant and try to follow it consistently each night.
3. Learn to differentiate “baby sleep sounds” from “arousal sounds” which do not require attention.
4. Observe closely for sleep ques and time bedtime accordingly. This prevents your baby from becoming overly tired, which may prolong transitions into sleep.
5. Feed more frequently during the daytime in preparation for sleep at night.
6. Use adequate protective diaper cream at night and avoid frequent diaper changes, which arouse baby during the night.
7. Limit interaction with infant at night. “Night time is sleepy time, daytime is playtime! Now it’s time for sleep!”
8. Promote attachment to a transitional object or “Lovey.” Wear the transitional object for an hour so it picks up your scent. Mommy’s familiar smell can be comforting and calming to babies.
9. Support your infant’s own attempts to self-regulate or self-soothe.
- Encourage sucking on fingers, thumbs, or pacifiers. My favorite is the “WubbaNub.”
- Position baby at the bottom of the crib or bassinet to allow for “foot-bracing.”
- Observe for and support other self-soothing behaviors, including bringing hands to mid-line, holding hands or feet together, or rocking.
10. When feeding baby, remove the breast or bottle occasionally as he becomes drowsy. Let your baby practice finishing his falling asleep in your arms not attached to the nipple.
For more tips and a discussion of the many ways to help babies fall asleep, you are invited to attend the “Sleepy Time” class at the Hollywood Pump Station. This class is part of the Pump Station’s Hot Topic Series. The next class will be held Thursday, February 12, at 1:00 pm. To register, please call the Hollywood Pump Station at (323) 469-5300.
Announcing a Guest Speaker for our Preschool Prep Program: Transitioning Toddlers
We are excited to announce a guest speaker for our 11 AM Preschool Prep Transitioning Toddler Group parents ! Next Tuesday, January 13th from 11:30 to 12:30 Judy Fishman OTR, a pediatric occupational therapist will be here to give a presentation about sensory integration and toddler development. Judy uses the “How Does your Engine Run?” program (which Marilee has introduced during our parent discussion in the past) to teach parents and teachers about sensory integration and it’s relationship to your child’s learning. So bring all of your questions next Tuesday morning at 11 AM and be prepared for a lively discussion.
January Themes for Our Preschool Prep Program: Animals and People in Winter
We have many exciting things going on this month!
Our theme for January is “Animals and People in Winter”. We have some fun activities planned each week that will help promote our toddlers’ cognitive as well as social-emotional and speech development as we get them ready for preschool.
Using Creative Art, Tactile, Sensory and Manipulative activities, we can teach the concept of opposites, such as day/night, hot/cold, front/back, top/bottom, in/out, hard/soft, and stop/go. We can also teach the skills of following directions, matching, categorizing, and using sorting language (same vs. different).
This week’s activities:
Creative Art: Building “Tracks in the Snow” using white paint to stamp different vehicles and animal on blue paper.
Tactile Sensory: Using play dough to help our toddlers become familiar with the vehicles and animals used to build the “Tracks in the Snow.”
Manipulative: Filling a Sensory Table with cotton balls and using tongs, pincers and small containers to teach the skills of sorting and organizing. Using these tools also helps our toddlers to develop their fine motor skills.
Check back next week for more exciting activities!
Part-time Work Opportunity
Announcing Part Time Work Opportunity! We are looking for a part time office manager and paid position to co-lead toddler groups and social skills group. Office manager work hours are 8 AM to 1 PM, Monday through Thursday. Must have good computer and social media skills. Email us or call info@ecdevelopment.org or (323) 655-5580 🙂
Sharing Household Chores and Baby Care
Many parents are surprised at how much extra work a tiny infant can create. With the addition of a new baby to the family, the pattern of your life at home will change dramatically. And what once seemed a fair distribution of work at home may no longer seem fair or so comfortable for both of you. If one of you feels you’re doing more housework and child care than the other, redistribute the load.
- Share ownership for making sure chores and other tasks get done. If one person is primarily responsible for getting things done, he or she might soon feel overwhelmed. Think about who’s responsible for making sure bills are paid on time, making and attending doctor’s appointments, buying groceries, arranging child care, and performing other tasks. Are these tasks equally distributed?
- Be willing to give up control. Many times we ask somebody to do a task, then criticize how they do it. Be clear about what needs to get done, then let your partner take charge and do it in his or her own way, whether it’s vacuuming or bathing the baby.
- Share child care. Work out a plan that has you both caring for the baby. You’ll both feel involved and your baby will benefit from the attention of both parents. It’s a good idea for each parent to get one-on-one time with the baby. This will give the other parent a break and also allow each of you to develop your own unique relationship with your child. Some couples find that making certain tasks or activities, such as bath time or weekend breakfasts, “belong” to one parent is a good way to establish a routine that helps build bonds between baby and parent and also gives the other parent a break to look forward to.
- Be flexible. As babies grow, their needs change. Your work schedules may change as well. Periodically revisit your distribution of child care and household work to see whether it still seems fair to both you and your partner.
Eggs-cellent Spring Egg-tivities!
Candy and presents galore, and egg hunts and activities by the score – it’s Easter and Spring! Take those sticky-fingered, peep-munching, egg-dyeing, candy-hunting little creatures of yours out for some fun all weekend long. One of these egg-cellent outings is sure to make your kids very, very happy!
Big Bunny’s Spring Fling
Big Bunny’s Spring Fling brings fun activities and entertainment for all L.A. Zoo visitors! Where else can you pet a fuzzy bunny, have your face painted (like a bunny), make a be-a-bunny craft, have your photo taken with Big Bunny all while seeing the wild animals.
Friday 18th & Saturday 19th April, 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.
$13-$18 All ages
Downtown Easter Fest
Everyone is invited to the 6th Annual Downtown Easter Fest for a huge Easter egg hunt with thousands of eggs, a bounce house, face painting, bubbles, arts and crafts, sack race, popcorn, food, drinks, and much more – all for free!
Sunday April 20, 2 p.m. – 5 p.m.
Free. All ages.
Grand Hope Park, W. 9th and Hope St.
Duff’s Cakemix Easter Cupcakes
Kids with a sweet tooth (what, the bunny didn’t bring enough?) can come create special Easter treats with instruction from Duff’s decorators with their exclusive easter decorating kit. The kit includes 4 cupcakes per person and all your decorating needs.
Sunday Apr 20, 3 p.m. – 4 p.m.
$25. Ages 4 and up. (323-650-5555)
8302 Melrose Ave. LA, CA 90069
Bunny Brunch at American Girl
It’s an egg-stravagant morning with The Grove’s Easter Bunny. Bring your appetite and your camera, as there are photo-ops a plenty.
Saturday 19th April, 9 a.m.
$22. Ages 3 and up. For reservations call American Girl at 877-247-5223.
The Grove, 189 The Grove Dr.
An Egg-ceptional Celebration
In honor of Easter, it’s an egg-ceptional celebration (the puns keep coming for a few more day) where kids can eat egg scrambles and take egg-speditions throughout the gardens.
Saturday 19th April, 10 a.m. – 1 p.m.
$3-$8. All ages.
Los Angeles Arboretum, 301 North Baldwin Ave., Arcadia
Kidspace Egg Hunt
Your little peeps can race through the Kidspace Gardens in search of hundreds of candy-filled eggs. Three egg hunts are scheduled for specific age groups, then stay for art creations like crafting your own bunny-ears.
Saturday 19th & Sunday 20th April, 11 a.m. – 2:30 p.m.
$4 in addition to museum admission. All ages.
Kidspace Children’s Museum, 480 N. Arroyo Boulevard, Pasadena
Enchanted Fairytale Easter
A special edition of Fairy Tale Theatre returns, where costumed actors invite little ones and their grown-ups to partake in story-telling, sing-a-longs, crafts, face-painting, theater games, refreshments, and re-enactments of fairytales, myths, and legends.
Saturday 19th & Sunday 20th April, 12:30 p.m.
$15 kids, one adult per kid is free. Ages 4-10. Reservations are necessary as space is extremely limited (only fifteen families per event!), and need to be made a minimum of 24 hours in advance.
Santa Monica Playhouse, 1211 4th St., Santa Monica
Malibu Hoppening
Hoppenings are rare. So come enjoy the once-a-year free egg hunt with Easter Bunny, bounce house, photos with the Easter Bunny, spring crafts and hands on fun. You must bring your own basket and camera if you want to take photos. The hunt starts at 3:30 p.m.
Friday 18th April. 3 p.m. – 6 p.m.
Free. All ages.
Malibu Bluffs Park, 24250 PCH, Malibu
Easter at the Pierce Farm
Gather the family and spend Easter Weekend at the Pierce College Farm taking part in a colorful array of activities for the entire family. Activities include scavenger hunts, Easter crafts, egg painting, animal farm and pony rides.
Saturday 19th & Sunday 20th April, 9 a.m. – 6 p.m.
All ages.
Pierce College, 20800 Victory Blvd., Woodland Hills
Huntington Beach Easter Hunt
Thousands of locals and tourists alike attend this beloved annual egg hunt held on the grassy lawns of HB’s Central Park. The festivities kick off early, so bring baskets for the kids to fill with candy and a few extra bucks for the yummy pancake breakfast. You can expect plenty of games, entertainment, and a visit with the Easter Bunny.
Saturday 19th April, 9 a.m. – 2 p.m.
Free. All ages.
Huntington Central Park, Goldenwest St., Huntington Beach
8 Ways to Communicate as a Couple
Whether or not this is your first child, having a baby can take its toll on your marriage. Nearly all couples report lower marital satisfaction after the arrival of their first child. This is understandable, normal, and preventable. Communication often and clearly about your parenting responsibilities is important, but so is talking about other issues that have nothing to do with your baby. Sharing your thoughts and feelings will keep your strong as a couple and negotiate parenthood in the early years and beyond.
- Make time to talk. Find time every day to talk, even if it’s while you’re doing something else, like walking the baby in the stroller or getting ready for bed. The important thing is to make a point of reconnecting each day.
- Talk about your expectations of parenthood. It’s common to have fears and concerns when you’re a new parent. Bring these out in the open where you can find ways together to deal with them. Talk about what kinds of parents you each want to be and what you can do to make your hopes a reality.
- Share what you know about babies and children and what you’re learning about your own child. With a new baby in your home, you’re both learning as you go along. Help each other by sharing what you know and what you’re figuring out about your baby’s personality and needs. Be open to what your partner has to say about caring for the baby and allow your partner to do things his/her way too. You may find it helpful for both of you to discuss the tips and techniques you learn.
- Talk about each others needs as a partner and a parent. Be direct, and avoid assuming that your parents is aware of all of your needs. For example, you could say, “I am exhausted. Can you care for the baby while I take a nap?” Ask your partner about his/her needs too.
- Argue fairly. Arguments can be productive if you approach them with the goal of resolving a conflict. Avoid bringing up a sensitive issue when either of you is tired or hungry, or when the baby needs your attention. Find a time to talk when you can focus on what is being said.
- Address one issue at a time when discussing conflicts. There may be a lot to sort out as new parents, but raising a lot of sensitive issues in the same conversation can leave the other person feeling confused and defensive. Figure out what concerns you most, and talk about that first. Stay on the present topic and save other important matters for a later talk.
- Talk about the issue, not who’s “right” or “wrong”. Focus on finding a solution instead of assigning blame.
- Be willing to talk about what is and what isn’t working. Patterns develop in relationships that can be difficult to change. One of you may take primary responsibility for the baby in the beginning, then later realize you’ll all be better off if you share the care more equally. Your life together keeps changing. Be willing to renegotiate your roles and expectations as your baby grows and you enter new phases of your lives.
“CPR and FIRST AID Training Workshop”
“CPR and FIRST AID Training Workshop”
CPR training is important general knowledge for everyone including parents, caregivers, and educators. Emergency situations can arise at any time and in any place.
Our workshop will be led by Louis Calderon, who is a bilingual American Heart Association and American Red Cross authorized instructor. The workshop includes Lectures, Practical Demonstrations, Basic CPR, Practical Case Scenario using Rhythm Simulator etc. Following successful completion of the workshop, participants will be awarded a certificate.
Date: Sunday 18th May, 2014
Time: 8:30 for registration and coffee and continental breakfast
9:00am – 2:00pm training (5 hrs)
**Box lunch included**
Location:
Early Childhood Development Associates
8344 Melrose Ave. Suite 23
Los Angeles, CA 90069
Fee: $75 per person
To sign up:
contact info@ecdevelopment.org or 323-655-5580
(Space is limited, contact us now!)
8344 Melrose Ave. Suite 23
Los Angeles, CA 90069
ECDA Summer Session 2014
A special summer session for children ages 2-3
Activities include story time, imaginative play, art, science projects, cooking, fun games, etc. Come and have FUN!
Sessions are professionally led by Child Development Specialists
Meeting Schedule:
Tuesdays and Thursdays
9:00-11:00am
(July 1st throu gh August 28th 2014)
Location:
8344 Melrose Ave.
Suite 23 Los Angeles, CA 90069
To sign up, contact:
Early Childhood Development Associates
(323) 655-5580 or info@ecdevelopment.org
Los Angeles Kids Weekend Events: Mar 28 – 30
In honor of Bookfest this weekend downtown at Grand Park, why don’t you imitate a favorite character from a book? Make like Huck Finn and take a fishing weekend. Be Dr. Doolittle and talk with the animals at the teaching zoo. Explore native American stories at the Satwiwa Center, see a show by Wind in the Willows author, or enter into Alice’s world with the Mad Hatter. Choose your own adventure!
- A Taste of Dance
Does your little one like to move it, move it? From the Singin’ in the Rain dance, to Pump Fiction’s groovy twist to Kevin Bacon’s Footloose moves, learn iconic steps from your favorite films with a full day of introductory dance lessons. Taste-test a variety of styles for just a buck a lesson!
Saturday 29th March 11a.m. – 4p.m.
All Ages, $1/lesson
Music Center Plaza, 135 N. Grand Ave. - Bookfest at Grand Park
Read your heart out at Grand Park. There will be loads of book-ish activities as well as music from Birdie’s Playhouse, the Story Pirates will be telling a Yarrrrrn or two, and there will be tasty snacks and time to play in the fountain.
Friday 28th March and Saturday 29th March 12p.m. – 5p.m.
Free for all ages
Downtown - Celebrate César Chávez
Head to the Zimmer to honor Latino labor leader César E. Chávez and his life of community organizing and activism with arts & crafts. There will also be a special performance by an Aztec Dance group from East Los Angeles.This program is part of the Family Sunday series, which are drop-in programs that are free with paid admission.
Sunday 30th March 2p.m. – 4p.m.
$5-$8 all ages
Miracle Mile, Zimmer Children’s Museum, 6505 Wilshire Blvd. - Free Family Festival at The Pacific Asia Museum
Celebrate the art of calligraphy, from ancient brush work to contemporary interpretations with hands-on crafts, demonstrations and more.
Sunday 30th March 12p.m. – 4p.m.
Free for all ages
Pacific Asia Museum, 46 North Los Robles Ave., Pasadena - The Huck Finn Fishing Derby and Campout
Take part in outdoor family fun however you like – you can spend a night under the stars at the campout, get up early in the morning to catch rainbow trout at the fishing derby or just come hang out and be part of the celebration.
Trophies are awarded to the top three fisherkids in each age category on Saturday, or the whole family can fish together on Sunday in the Family Fishing Derby.
Friday 28th March – Sunday 30th March (at various times)
Ages 3+
Campsites are $65 which includes fishing derby entry; kids can come fish for $10 each, or everyone can take part in the family fishing for $20 per family of 4.
611 E. Sierra Madre Blvd., Sierra Madre - Happy Birthday, Little Tramp
Charlie Chaplin’s Little Tramp turns 100! If you’ve never seen a Chaplin film with your kids, this is the perfect reason and time to do so. Shorts featuring the beloved character have recently been restored and they’re coming to the big screen at the Aero. With live musical accompaniment!
Friday 28th March 7:30pm
$9-11, Ages 4+
Aero Theater, 1328 Montana Ave., Santa Monica - The Reluctant Dragon
The Los Angeles Children’s theater presents the West Coast premiere of “The Reluctant Dragon,” a delightful children’s show based on an original story by Kenneth Grahame. The Reluctant Dragon is a charming tale about a shy, peaceful dragon who must overcome stereotypes to be accepted. Performed by professional actors, The Reluctant Dragon explores the themes of bullying, self-confidence, and self-esteem with a positive, empowering message. Filled with magical effects, colorful costumes, and a valuable moral lesson, LACT’s production is a perfect way for children to enjoy a live stage experience in an intimate 50-seat theatrical setting. For more information, please call the box office at (310) 622-4482.
Saturday 29th March and Sunday 30th March 11a.m.
$10-$35, Ages 4+
The Little Theater, 12420 Santa Monica Blvd., Santa Monica - Mad Hatter Tea Party
The mad hatter in Wonderland was inspired by the true crazy creations of the age. Create imaginative hats inspired by milliners and 19th century hats depicted in the Tea and Morphine exhibition at the Hammer, and then partake in a festive tea party. This event kicks off the Hammer Museum’s new Close Encounters series, in which artists encourage families to look closely at art, experiment, and create together.
Sunday 30th March 11a.m.
Free, Ages 5+
Hammer Museum, 10899 Wilshire Blvd, Westwood - Native American Campfire Stories
Enjoy the sunset and a roaring campfire while listening to tales of native culture and songs of the Satwiwa.
Sunday 30th March 6:30p.m. – 8p.m.
Free for all ages
Satwiwa Cultural Center, 4126 W Potrero Rd., Newbury Park - Spring Spectacular at The Teaching Zoo
Swing, Slither or Soar on over to this wild event at America’s Teaching Zoo. Here, everything animals is at your fingertips: watch entertaining animal shows, get a sneak peek behind the scenes, interact with wild animal trainers and their furry friends and don’t miss all the games, food and fun for kids.
Saturday 29th March 10a.m. – 5p.m.
$7-$10 all ages
Moorpark Teaching Zoo, 7075 Campus Road, Moorpark
Identifying Children Who May Benefit From a Consultation
One of the most frequently asked questions by parents, teachers , school directors , and principals is this: How do we know when a child needs a consultation or assessment? Here are a few signs to look for in identifying children who may benefit from a consultation and/or an assessment.
26 ways to Identify Children Who May Benefit from a Consultation:
1. Parental concerns
2. Difficulty with separation
3. History of trauma or loss
4. Child consistently avoids playing with other children
5. Aggressive behavior
6. Poor impulse control
7. Attention is shorter than it is for other children the same age
8. Lacks social skills
9. Avoids or rarely makes eye contact
10. Unusually frustrated when trying to do simple tasks
11. Focuses on unusual objects for long periods of time, preferring objects more than interacting with others
12. Plays with toys in an unusual way
13. Rocks body
14. Stiff arms or legs
15. Floppy or limp body
16. Uses one side of the body more than the other
17. Unusual clumsiness and/or frequent falling
18. Fails to develop sounds or words appropriate for age
19. Talks in a very loud or very soft voice
20. Fails to respond when called
21. Difficulty following directions
22. Cries easily
23. Extremely shy or anxious
24. Tilts head into an unusual position when looking at an object
25. Has difficulty picking up small objects on the floor after 12 months
We are here to help. Give us a call at (323)433-1310 or email us at info@ecdevelopment.org.
The Best Museums for Kids in Los Angeles
Los Angeles also has a wealth of fantastic museums. You could visit a new one every week for a year without repeats. And each of them has something that will appeal to kiddos – whether it’s playing “I Spy” in art galleries or learning about the history and culture of the City of Angels. But there are some museums that are pure kid nirvana: places with interactive exhibits, cool experiments, live animals, and spectacular play spaces. In short, there are museums that are perfect places to spend the whole day (or many days) with kids of all ages. These are our picks for the best museums for kids in LA:
Zimmer Children’s Museum, Miracle Mile
Located on Wilshire Blvd.’s Museum Row, this hidden gem encourages kids to explore diversity and cultural awareness through inspired hands-on activities. There’s a ton of cool things to do, from driving an ambulance and piloting a plane to jamming with instruments from around the world or playing the massive pinball machine. Rotating art exhibits and classes are a big draw, as are the various festivals and Sunday Family Programs. Many of the themes and art installations have Jewish cultural significance with ideas that apply to everyone.
Hours: Tuesday-Thursday, 10 a.m. – 5 p.m.; Friday, 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.; Sunday, 12:30 p.m. – 5 p.m.; Closed Monday and Saturday and most Jewish and National Holidays.
Admission: Kids are $5 and adults are $8; kids under 1 are free. Grandparents are free on Thursdays.
Need to Know: Parking is free in the west parking structure.
Page Museum La Brea Tarpits, Miracle Mile
What kid doesn’t love learning about prehistoric creatures? Look no further than this oldie but goodie on Wilshire Blvd., in the shadow of LACMA. The bubbling tarpit is a big attraction, not to mention the open grassy area where kids can be kids. Inside the museum, artifacts and fossils from the Ice Age never fail to awe little minds.
Hours: Daily from 9:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
Admission: $5 for kids, $12 for adults and tots under 3 are free. The first Tuesday of the month is also free for everyone (but be sure to check the website, as there are no free Tuesdays in July & August).
Need to Know: Come in play clothes – kids adore poking around in the mini bubble-ups of tar that dot the park, but that sticky black goo does not come out of clothing.
California Science Center, Exposition Park
Located in Downtown’s Exposition Park, this is a science lover’s heaven. But even if your little one isn’t a future lab dweller, there’s plenty to get their minds working. The IMAX Theater is a big draw for older kids. The three Discovery Rooms are perfect destinations for the 6 and under crowd – they are filled with tons of hands-on experiments like a construction zone, a kitchen, a garden and even a kid-sized TV studio complete with costumes. Plus, there’s the Space Shuttle Endeavour and the fabulous Ecosystems exhibition where you can visit an icy land, go under the sea and even get grossed out in the rot room.
Hours: Open daily from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Closed Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Day.
Admission: Permanent exhibits are free. IMAX tickets: Child (4-12 yrs) $5, Adult $8.25. For Space Shuttle Endeavour viewing timed ticket are required.
Need to Know: Avoid planning a visit during USC game days as the center shares parking with the Coliseum, and traffic is disastrous. Or take the Metro to the stop right across the street.
Kidspace Children’s Museum, Pasadena
This Pasadena establishment is an amazing family destination where activities and learning abound. They have everything a little mind can imagine, from the tike tracks to Kirby’s Kid Corner where it’s all about splashing and helping toddlers develop motor coordination. Visit the Digging Deeper Gallery to discover nature—from examining bugs and insects to learning about raindrops. The Gardens boast bee and butterfly exhibits, a wildlife pond and even a Spider Web climber. The Galvin Physics Forest has hands-on fun that inspires kids to be innovators and creators, as does the new Imagination Workshop. Your tyke will leave tuckered out!
Hours: Tuesday to Friday from 9:30 a.m. to 5 p.m.; Saturday & Sunday from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Admission: $10, kids under 1 are free.
Need to Know: Check the event calendar for festivals and special exhibits and hands-on crafting. Also, be aware of UCLA game days—check the website for closures on those days.
Skirball Cultural Center, West LA
This Jewish cultural institution offers many wonderful family programs as well as a favorite destination for kiddos, Noah’s Ark. This amazing interactive exhibit occupies 8,000 square feet and plenty of activities to fuels a preschooler’s mind. The floor to ceiling ark is filled with animals and plenty of items that encourage the family to build, create, climb and explore every inch. A new gorilla family landed in the ark last summer, so if you haven’t been recently, go meet them!
Hours: Tuesday to Friday from noon to 5 p.m; Saturday & Sunday from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Admission: Kids are $5 and adults are $10. Thursdays are free. Noah’s Ark admission in included, but required a timed ticket (so get tickets online in advance if you’re coming on a weekend or free day).
Need to Know: On any given day, the Ark has surprise encounters and drop-in activities, so be prepared for anything.
Petersen Automotive Museum, Miracle Mile
Vroom! Kiddos love cars and trucks and things that go. The Petersen Automotive is a fascinating but small museum that will rev up your senses and make your kids want to start their engines. Dedicated to all things car, especially the LA car culture, this museum features more than 150 rare and classic cars, trucks and motorcycles. Located on the third floor is The May Family Discovery Center. This interactive “hands-on” learning center is where you will spend most of your time. Well, here and on the second floor, where you’ll find the Hot Wheels Exhibition and the Batmobile!
Hours: Open Tuesday – Sunday from 10 a.m. – 6 p.m.
Admission: Kids are $5, adults are $15 and kiddos under 5 are free.
Need to Know: If you need to refuel, you can pop down to the ground floor to the always delicious Johnny Rockets to enjoy some shakes, burgers and fries.
Wildlife Learning Center, Sylmar
Forget the long lines and horrible vantage points at big zoos. Take your kids to the Wildlife Learning Center where they can get up close and personal with 70 different species of animals from around the world! This quaint and beautifully landscaped “neighborhood zoo” will seriously knock you and your kids’ socks off. From Chuckwallas to legless Lizards to a Eurasian Lynx, your family will have the chance to explore the wonders of natural science through interactive learning.
Hours: Monday through Friday from noon to 5 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Admission: Kids are $6, adults are $7, and it’s free for children under 2.
Need to Know: You can learn about all the animals you’ll meet online before you go.
Autry National Center, Griffith Park
We do live in the wild, wild west after all, and the Autry Museum is a fantastic place to bring kids to explore our history. From early settlers to the days of sheriffs and gunslingers, Annie Oakley to cowboy movies, Chinatown to the Gold Rush, this spot gives kids an overview of the history of what made the West so wild and how it was tamed (or was it?). Kids adore the chance to pan for gold, to be in a cowboy movie (green screen and all) and the Family Discovery Gallery which allows kiddos to touch, play, and experience the life of a Chinese American family in the 1930s through a home, a restaurant and a curio company.
Hours: Open Tuesday–Friday from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. and Saturday & Sunday form 11 a.m. – 5 p.m..
Admission: $4 for kids, $10 for adults and tots under 3 are free. The second Tuesday of the month is also free for everyone.
Need to Know: Gold panning is only offered on weekends (it’s included with admission), so if that’s something your child wants to try, plan your visit for a Saturday or Sunday.
Natural History Museum, Exposition Park
Let’s have a show of hands – who has a kiddo who loves dinos? Most kids go through a dinosaur phase, and when you visit the Natural History Museum’s Dinosaur Hall, you’ll be struck with your own child-like wonder. It’s a spectacular space, and the multi-media stations are informative and fun for all ages. You can also see animal dioramas from all over the world, and be sure to check out the new Nature Gardens and Labs.
Hours: Open 9:30 a.m. – 5 p.m. daily.
Admission: $5 for kids, $12 for adults and tots under 3 are free. The first Tuesday of the month is also free for everyone (but be sure to check the website, as there are no free Tuesdays during the busy summer, and extra ones in September).
Need to Know: In the spring and summer you won’t want to miss the Butterfly Pavilion, where you can get up close and personal with beautiful winged creatures. In the fall this becomes the Spider Pavilion – a perfect Halloween adventure!
Griffith Observatory, Griffith Park
Start with the sweeping views of the city, where on a clear day you can see from the San Gabriel Mountains to the beach. See if kids can spot your neighborhood far below. Then head inside and learn all about our planets and universe. What would we weigh on Jupiter? How is a comet made? What can you see through the giant telescopes? Don’t miss a visit to the planetarium for one of their amazing shows. Public Star Parties are held once a month, where you can come look at the sun, moon & planets and try out a variety of telescopes.
Hours: Tuesday – Friday from noon – 10 p.m. and Saturday & Sunday from 10 a.m. – 10 p.m.
Admission: Free, shows in the Planetarium $3 for kids and $7 for adults. Kids under 5 are only admitted to the first show each day.
Need to Know: Parking is notoriously difficult, so on a weekend expect a long walk. The good news – the walk will be gorgeous, with the best views in the city of the Hollywood Sign. The bad news – it’s all uphill. So bring strollers or carriers for wee ones.
Los Angeles Fire Department Historical Society, Hollywood
If you’ve got a mini firefighter on your hands, this tucked away museum is a must visit. (The museum has two locations, but for kids we prefer the Hollywood spot.) The LAFD has turned the old Hollywood Fire Station (once the largest one West of the Mississippi) into a center for learning about fire safety as well as a place to see historical fire trucks, gear, model engines and more. The upstairs is a huge playspace for kids to try on fire fighter suits and hats and play with fire trucks and toys. The museum is staffed with retired firefighters who love to talk with kids, and right next door is the current Hollywood Fire Station, with on-duty firefighters who are happy to give tours and let kids sit in fire trucks (when they’re not busy fighting fires).
Hours: Saturdays from 10 a.m. until 4 p.m.
Admission: Free
Need to Know: You can walk from here to Sunset Blvd. and Amoeba Records, the Cinerama Dome, Umami Burger and Groundworks Coffee, if you want to make a day of it.
Worth the Drive
While these spots aren’t right in the LA area, they’re all well worth the drive. All of these museums were made just for kids, and you can easily spend the whole day exploring, learning and being entertained at any one of these places. So when you’ve exhausted LA propers’ best museums for kids and still want more, we suggest a day trip to one of these kid-centric havens.
Kidseum, part of the Bowers Museum, Santa Ana – A great time to visit is on the third Sunday of the month, when the Bowers Museum hosts a free Family Festival.
Discovery Science Center, Santa Ana – Be sure to check on the rotating exhibitions here – from the Science of Gingerbread to LEGO Castles, and Bob the Builder to Da Vinci, they put on great rotating exhibitions at this museum.
Pretend City, Irvine – This mini-city just for the small set (best for 2-4 year olds) encourages kids to play grownup and be dentists, firefighters, farmers, construction workers, rockstars, grocery clerks, artists and more.
Your Baby’s Transitional Object (AKA: “Lovey”)
The Charles Schultz character, Linus, and his blanket is a well known to most of us. Linus is attached to his blanket and reluctant to let go of it – he drags his blanket around wherever he goes, nibbles on it’s corners or curls up with it when things get tough.
There are a number of different kinds of “loveys” that can be purchased which are appropriate for babies. They are usually small (12″ x 12″ or less), soft, cuddly, and nice to touch.
Around three months of age your baby’s growing alertness and awareness of her surroundings makes her more aware of her separateness. Separation anxiety is right around the corner, and a transitional object or “lovey” can help. Despite myths to the contrary, transitional objects or loveys are not a sign of weakness or insecurity. It is quite the opposite. A lovey can be a helpful tool for your baby to use.
4 suggestions to facilitate the attachment of your baby to her lovey:
- Place the lovey into your baby’s hands whenever she nurses or takes her bottle. There will be an association that develops between the warm feelings your baby experiences as she is held close to you when her tummy fills with milk and the feeling of the lovey as she holds it.
- Take the lovey with you whenever you travel in the car or stroller. Let your baby hold the lovey in her hands.
- Hold the lovey next to the skin on your chest for 30 minutes, so that the lovey picks up your scent. (You will need to do this again whenever the lovey is washed.)
- Do not let your baby use your long hair as her transitional object. This causes all kinds of complications later on.
It is recommended that you make it easy on yourself and purchase three identical loveys. This allows you to rotate loveys for washing and also allows you to have a spare to take to grandma’s house.
Art Therapy with Children- Part 2
7 ways that Art Therapy Can Help Families
Art therapy can also be incredibly beneficial to families, allowing them to work on creative projects together, both as a way of bonding and by allowing the therapist to watch dynamics play out. During this process, the therapist can play an active part in recognizing and challenging disadvantageous dynamics, helping each family member to see their own contributions. This can be challenging, but also very effective in the creating needed change.
Art therapy can help families to:
- Create new, positive ways of interacting
- Learn parenting skills
- Use metaphors and symbolism to understand hidden dynamics and feeling
- Build a deeper understanding of individual family member’s needs
- Increase thoughtful, effective communication
- Provide firm, healthy boundaries
- Practice effective reinforcement of behaviors
What Does a Family Session Look Like?
Like with individual therapy, this depends on the family, the ages of the children, and the therapist. Often, the therapist will take a less active part for the first couple of sessions, allowing the family to become comfortable and for hidden dynamics to become apparent.
The therapist will provide family directives and will watch for things such as: Who leads the projects? Who sits out? Do family members interact or quietly work alone? In the first couple of sessions, the family will also work together to create goals and intentions for therapy, giving family members and the therapist a direction for movement.
Upon completing a directive, the therapist will discuss the dynamics and the symbols apparent in the art, helping the parents to lead the conversation in a constructive way. As therapy progresses, the therapist will support the parent figures in taking more and more control of the activities, helping to solidify comfort in practicing effective team parenting, as well as enforcing difficult boundaries and guidelines, and helping the children to more effectively communicate their own needs.
Remember!
Art therapy is not about being an artist. It is important for clients to want to participate in the art, but defining yourself as skilled or creative is not a requirement. The important part is allowing the process to access deep emotions and hidden dynamics, a rewarding challenge regardless of skill level.
By Jillien Kahn, MA, Art Therapist, MFT Intern
If you are interested in Art Therapy for your child,
please contact us at 323-655-5580 or info@ecdevelopment.org
Art Therapy with Children- Part 1
While various forms of therapy can be beneficial for a child, many children may find it scary or difficult to verbally express themselves for many reasons. Art therapy is a quickly growing specialized area of psychotherapy that can help children (and adults) express emotions and experiences beyond what verbal language is capable of.
Long before we develop verbal language, we exist in a world of images. Throughout our first three years, before we fully develop our ability to be understood verbally, we associate feelings with these images: the image of our mother’s face or breast, the image of the pacifier or the person with the loud angry voice; the uncomfortable car seat, or our favorite toy. Our most primal emotions are stored in this world of images, gaining access through art and creativity can allow us to express and understand ourselves more fully.
Art therapy can be used as part of, or in lieu of, any type of therapy, and is incredibly efficacious for children and families as both short- and long-term therapy.
9 Ways that Art Therapy Can Help Children
The simple process of creating art can help children navigate and cope with difficult feelings, learn frustration tolerance, build self-awareness and self-confidence, and give the child a life-long tool for healthy emotion regulation and expression.
Children are naturally creative and can use the creative process as a way of communicating and working through any number of challenges such as:
- Death of friend or family member
- Trauma
- Learning challenges
- Emotional issues such as phobias or insecure attachment
- Increasing motor skills
- Increasing social skills
- Understanding and dealing with physical or emotional challenges
- Behavioral challenges
- Increasing language
What Does a Session Look Like?
It depends on the age of the child and the preferences of the therapist. Various art supplies are used to achieve different goals, such as opening up a resistant child with loose media like finger paints, or teaching self-control to a hyperactive child with a more controlled media, such as colored pencils.
Often, the session will begin with a check-in, helping the child to be aware of, and to express, their current emotional state. The therapist may then use further art directives based upon the child’s check-in, or may continue to different directives based on other projects or goals for the child’s treatment.
After the child completes a directive, the therapist will ask questions, learning about that particular child’s image language and the feelings associated with the colors and images used. Many children will naturally create a “self symbol” or a metaphor that can be used to tell his or her story. By telling the story of the symbol, rather than using first person, the child is allowed distance and therefore more freedom to express challenging feelings.
As the child and therapist continue to develop a trusting relationship, the treatment will move forward to becoming more challenging according to the child’s emotional and behavioral goals.
Remember!
Art therapy is not about being an artist. It is important for clients to want to participate in the art, but defining yourself as skilled or creative is not a requirement. The important part is allowing the process to access deep emotions and hidden dynamics, a rewarding challenge regardless of skill level.
By Jillien Kahn, MA, Art Therapist, MFT Intern
If you are interested in Art Therapy for your child,
please contact us at 323-655-5580 or info@ecdevelopment.org
10 Family Weekend Activities: Feb 28 – March 2
This weekend is full of celebrations – whether you’re star struck, a bookworm, or you celebrate Norouz or St. David’s Day. Here’s a sample of everything for your family to choose from!
1. Sunday Studio at MOCA
Re-live your hipper, artsy-fartsy pre-kid days, kids in tow, by taking part in the Family Sunday Studio at MOCA with dynamic tours, innovative art experiments, music, and more!
Sunday March 2nd 1p.m. to 4p.m.
Free for all ages
MOCA Grand Avenue, 250 S. Grand Ave., Los Angeles
2. Hinamatsuri (Girl’s Day) Tea
Mothers, daughters, ladies of all ages are welcome to bring their dolls and head to the Japanese American National Museum for afternoon tea at the Chado Tea Room to celebrate Hinamatsuri – a special day in Japan where families celebrate the health and happiness of their young daughters. We say cheers to that!
Saturday March 1st 11a.m.
$35 Ages 5+ (Special activities and giveaways included)
RSVP is required as they are limited to 40 seats
Japanese American National Museum, 100 North Central Avenue., Los Angeles
3. Oscar Couture at FIDM
It’s the annual Oscar Nominated Costumes exhibit, and this year there’s an eyeful for kids – with the larger than life Superman costumes from Man of Steel, the witches garb from OZ The Great and Powerful, the robot suits from Pacific Rim, to Katniss’ clothes from Catching Fire. Celebrating the art and industry of costume designers, this exhibition will present more than 100 costumes from twenty films released in 2013.
The exhibit is open Tuesday – Saturday from 10a.m. – 5p.m. through April 26
Free for all ages
FIDM, 919 South Grand Avenue., Los Angeles
4. A Seussian Party for Read Across America
Everyone with a wocket in their pocket or a cat under their hat won’t want to miss this Dr. Seuss celebration. Come read stories, make paper hats, and turn into cats (with face painting, of course!)
Sunday March 2nd 2p.m. – 4p.m.
$5-$8 for ages 2-7
Zimmer Children’s Museum, 6505 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles
5. “White”, a play for kids
Kids are invited to an all-white world in this offbeat comedy from Scottish children’s theater company Catherine Wheels. “This may be the only show that will remind you simultaneously of “Teletubbies” and Waiting for Godot.” – The New York Times. That’s the only thing we needed to hear – we’re in! Also, it’s just 35 minutes and aimed at kids 2-5.
February 26th – Sunday March 23rd at various times
$25 for ages 2-5
Wallis Annenber Center, 9390 N. Santa Monica Blvd., Beverly Hills
http://www.thewallis.org/showinfo.php?id=15
6. Bubble Man
Who doesn’t love bubbles? The Bubble Man has been thrilling audiences around the world for over 30 years with the art, magic, science and fun of bubbles! The Amazing Bubble Man conjures shrieks of laughter and gasps of amazement from all ages.
Saturday March 1st and Sunday March 2nd at 11a.m. and 1.p.m. and 3p.m.
$25 for adults and $20 for children
The Edgemar Center for the Arts, 2437 Main St., Santa Monica
http://www.edgemarcenter.org/?page_id=252
7. The Schick Machine
Challenge your kids to think about what an instrument can be. In a show filled with sonic surprises and visual delights, kids watch as an inventor is inspired by the things he finds in his workshop as he creates a new musical machine.
Saturday March 1st and Sunday March 2nd at various times
$20-$30 Ages 5+
Freud Playhouse, 405 Hilgard Ave., Los Angeles
8. March for Climate Change
Join the SoCal Climate Action Coalition 350 and its regional partners for the largest coast-to-coast climate march in American history. Kids can learn about climate change and see their parents getting active in the issue, because “Climate Change is Personal!” Early risers can join the Native American sunrise ceremony – we’ll see you at the rally at 9a.m.! Thousands are projected to join the mobilized mass movement starting in the Port of Los Angeles, with hundreds continuing to march 3,000 miles to Washington D.C. to deliver the message!
Free for all ages
Rally starts at 9a.m., march begins at 10a.m.
South Bay, Wilmington Waterfront Park, “C” Street, Wilmington
9. Long Beach Mardi Gras Parade
The family fun lasts all afternoon long! Shoreline Village is hosting a great day of music, art, festivities, and young and old alike are welcome to dress up, dance, and make merry along Long Beach’s beautiful Rainbow Harbor.
The parade starts at 3p.m. in front of Long Beach’s legendary Aquarium of the Pacific – it’s free to watch or take part in the parade!
Saturday March 1st 1p.m. – 6p.m.
Free for all ages
Rainbow Harbor, Pine Ave. & Shoreline Dr., Long Beach
10. Happy Norouz (Persian New Year)
Bring the family to the Bowers Museum for their Norouz, or Persian New Year, family celebration that’s full of music, dance, crafts and art.
Sunday March 2nd 11a.m. – 3:30p.m.
Free for all ages
Bowers Museum, 2002 North Main St., Santa Ana, Orange County
What and where will you be celebrating? Don’t forget to DVR the Oscar telecast! Idina Menzel is singing “Let It Go,” and your little Frozen fanatic will love to see it!
Early Solid Food Feeding Techniques
On Saturday, we had guest speaker Cynthia Epps (infant feeding specialist) come in to give us some tips on early solid food feeding techniques. Here are some suggestions for our parents:
- To protect the baby’s most important nutrient, his/her breastmilk or formula, you may offer one one meal/day for the first month, then two meals with two foods per day for the second month.
- You may keep your baby seated facing outward, on your lap, or, you may sit him/her up straight in a high chair facing you. If baby faces you, sit directly in front of him/her
- Use a small, shallow-bowled, long handled soft tipped spoon
- Allow him/her to discover the first spoon, coated with pureed “food flavor”
- Hold your spoonful of food so he/she can see it, about 12 inches from baby’s mouth
- Wait for your baby to “cue” – pay attention to the spoon of food before you try to feed it
- Anticipate your baby’s grasp, and encourage him/her to take the spoon by placing the stem across your baby’s open palm
- You may also gently drip food onto your baby’s lower lip
- Offer a second spoonful and follow your baby’s cues – dripping onto the lips until your baby opens his/her mouth
- Drip the food into his/her mouth only when he/she opens up
- Feed as slowly or as fast as your baby wants to eat
- Always pause and wait for him/her to show you readiness before offering the next spoonful
- Let baby touch the food on the spoon and/or tray to explore. This can get messy, but is normal food exploration to develop self-feeding skills
- Talk to your baby and keep him/her company during the feed, but don’t be exciting or entertaining
- Stop feeding as soon as your baby indicates he/she is done – small whimpers, sudden arching, hands waving, and head turning away
- Never force your baby to finish another “bite or two”
- Babies eat better when they feel like they have control of the situation
Cynthia says: “Remember, if you want to encourage your baby to try a new food, simply fill the spoon, allow him/her to see it, and then put it into your mouth. Smile, swallow, and offer the next spoonful to your baby, without comment. Children cannot resist a happy parent model!” We thank Cythina for joining us at the group and sharing great information with us!
Cynthia Epps, MS, IBCLC
MotherWork
Metabolic Nutritionist
Board Certified Lactation Consultant
(310) 458-6430
10 Recommendations for Kids Weekend Events: Feb 21-23
Puppet nerds, pink cupcake eaters, camellias, whales, Maori dance, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy goes family and more – there’s a whole crazy range of activities happening all over the city this weekend, so there’s sure to be something here to appeal to everyone in your family, not matter how offbeat their interests.
1. Hop over to see “Grasshopper and the Ant” – A puppet show
Swazzle present this comical retelling of the classic Aesop’s fable, set in Ancient Greece and told by puppets. It’s a great jumping off point for a day spent exploring downtown
February 22, 2p.m.
Ages 2+ Free
Los Angeles Central Library, 630 W. 5th St., Los Angeles
2. Party Like Pint Sized Rock Star at Zimmerpalooza
The Zimmer is banking on the fact that your whole family is really ready to rock! Featuring a line-up of some of LA’s coolest rock bands for kids (including Mista Cookie Jar, Twinkle Time, Willie Aaron, Beat Buds & more), there will be stylin’ stations for getting the rockstar treatment and of course loads of superstar hands-on activities for all ages (like a tattoo parlor, sock puppet karoke, DIY disco balls & more); this is one rockin’ party your family does not want to miss!
February 23 11a.m. – 5p.m.
$25/child, $50/adult (Proceeds benefit this fabulous kids’ museum)
Zimmer Children’s Museum, 6505 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles
3. An Old Time Double Feature
The New Beverly is showing back to back “Ali Baba and the Forty Thieves” (from 1944) and “Jason and the Argonauts (from 1964) in a throwback afternoon in the dark that’s fun for the whole family
February 23 – 25 at various times
Ages 6+ $6-$8 for both movies
New Beverly Cinema, 7165 W. Beverly Blvd., Los Angeles
4. Puppet Town
“Puppet Town” is back with puppets, music, sketch comedy and fun! With a cast of comedians and puppeteers, it’ll give your funny bones a workout!
February 22 2p.m. – 3p.m.
$8-10 and free for kids under 12
The Nerdmelt Showroom @ Meltdown Comics, 7522 Sunset Blvd., West Hollywood
5. Day of Music with Big Bad Voodoo Daddy
The iconic swing band Big Bad Voodoo Daddy presents a Day of Music in support of art and music programs in Glendale public schools. The event will kick off with a day of music geared toward kids of all ages (free). End the evening with a perfect excuse to get a sitter: the benefit concert and VIP after-party (tickets range from $25-$127, the evening event is adults only). Great music, great cause, fun for the whole family
February 22 1:30p.m. – 12a.m.
The Alex Theater, 216 N Brand Blvd., Glendale
6. Camellia Festival
Sometimes you’ve got to stop and smell the flowers, and a beautiful place to do that is the Camellia Festival, where more than 5,000 kids march in the parade. “Oh the Books I Can Read” is the theme of the parade, and the whole weekend. The Camellia Festival Parade begins at 10a.m. at Las Tunas Dr. between Sultana Ave. & Rowland Ave.
February 21 – 23 (Festival hours are Friday from 4p.m. – 11p.m., Saturday 11a.m. – 11p.m., Sunday noon – 8p.m.)
Free for all ages
Temple City Park, Las Tunas Dr. at Sultana Ave., Temple City
7. Maori Dance Jam
It’s a Family Jam at the Fowler, and this one is all about Maori Dance. Watch and learn the expressive dance, then make a pendant to wear while you dance.
February 23 2p.m. to 4p.m.
Free for all ages
Fowler Museum (UCLA), 3089 Charles E Young Dr., Westwood
8. Camp Fair
Learn about all the amazing opportunities your kids can have at camps this summer. Meet camp directors and staff and even pre-register for camps that typically fill up quickly. It seems early to begin planning that perfect summer, day camps are opening their registration in February and many fill fast. For convenience, parents have an opportunity at the fair to review the camp schedules and pricing in one place.
February 23 1p.m. to 4p.m.
Free for all ages
Stephen S. Wise School, 5500 Stephen S. Wise Dr., Los Angeles
9. Take a Whale of an Adventure
Start your whale adventure at the Cabrillo Marine Aquarium learning about the fascinating life of the Pacific gray whale. Then head out on a two-hour voyage in search of whales, dolphins, sea lions and sea birds. Don’t miss the boat!
February 23 8:30a.m. to 12p.m.
$22 (Call 310-548-7562 to reserve a spot)
Cabrillo Marine Aquarium, 3720 Stephen M. White Drive, San Pedro
10. Pinkalicious, the musical
Got a little one who adores pink? A family friendly performance! Pinkalicious can’t stop eating pink cupcakes despite warnings from her parents and her indulgence turns her pink from head to toe – a dream come true for this pink-loving enthusiast. But when her hue goes too far, will Pinkalicious figure a way out of this predicament?
Weekends through March 2 (Saturday matinees at 1p.m. and 3p.m. and Sunday matinees at 1p.m.)
$20-$30 ages 3-10
El Portal Theatre, 5260 Lankershim Blvd., North Hollywood
Where will you be this weekend? Let us know!
8 Common Parenting Mistakes
Adapted from the Huffington Post article by Sherrie Campbell, PhD.
We, of course, parent our young ones with as much hope and good intention as we can muster in the daily chaos of family life. Sometimes, however, even our best intentions can lead us amiss.
Over the next two blogs, we’re going to cover 8 common and incredibly easy mistakes that have been shown to have an insidious negative impact on the long-term mental health of our children. We suggest that as you read through this, think of both yourself and your parents: which of these behaviors might you have learned from your well intentioned, but uninformed parents? Which might you be transferring to your own child, and how?
1. Ignore or Minimize Your Child’s Feelings.
You don’t like this, why do it to your child? Mocking, teasing or ignoring your child’s emotions is simply setting them up to mistrust their feelings and themselves. By honoring, understanding, and helping your child work through their feelings, you are building resilience, self-awareness, and empathy. Plus, by showing your child that YOU honor YOUR OWN feelings, you’re modeling all of the same things. And, by honoring both your own and your child’s feelings, you’re taking advantage of some fantastic opportunities for the open, vulnerable moments that don’t come often enough.
2. Inconsistent Rules.
This one is difficult. Consistency is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting for many people, because it requires a constant eye and a readiness to be firm at any moment. I like to compare this to parking signs: if the signs are clear, you may not like the information, but you know exactly what the rules are. How infuriating is it if the sign is unclear and you get a ticket? Or, once you park in a space without getting a ticket for awhile, then one day, suddenly, you get a ticket? Or if a new sign is put up stating you can’t park in your favorite parking space? Inconsistent rules are the same for your child. If rules are given, they must be followed every time, or discuss why some rules exist in one place, but not in another. These rules and boundaries provide a safe space for your child to explore him or herself. In the absence of firm boundaries, children will use behaviors to seek them out, looking for the limits. If boundaries are inconsistent, children will lack respect for even those boundaries that ARE given, which can result in problem behaviors and low self-esteem.
3. Make Your Child Your Friend.
Your worries are not your child’s worries, nor are your children old or mature enough to give you advice, no matter how precocious. By sharing your problems and concerns with your child, you are making their world just a little less safe. Someday, your child will know your inherent fallibility, but by sharing this with them before they’re adults, you rob them of one of the great safety nets of childhood – respect for one’s parents. Model for your children your ability to be strong, to face challenges, to keep an eye on that light at the end of the tunnel. Be honest, own your emotions, but never burden your children with your problems. If they see that you’re defeated, how can they trust you to be there for them?
4. Put Down Your Child’s Other Parent.
How do you show your spouse or partner affection in front of you child? How do you fight? What are you teaching them by each? Speaking negatively about your child’s other parent in front of your child can create anxiety and permanently affect your child’s relationship with their other parent. The unspoken communication your child receives is that in order to please you, they must also dislike their other parent, which creates confusion and distrust in relationships throughout life. Allow your child to come to his or her own conclusions about the other parent. Do not speak negatively to your child, or within hearing of your child. They pick up on far more than we think.
Original Article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sherrie-campbell-phd/8-guaranteed-ways-to-emotionally-fck-up-your-kids_b_4619389.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009
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